Thinking About Thinking

“Catch Your Kids Doing Good”

Posted in Philosophy, Pop Culture by larrycheng on April 13, 2011

I had the privilege of spending this afternoon with the founder of a very promising educational software company.  I was intrigued with the background of the founder as it’s not every day that I run into entrepreneurs with an accomplished and extensive background in child psychology. 

Given his expertise, I couldn’t resist asking the following question: “If you could snap your fingers, and have all the parents in the world do one thing differently for the betterment of all humanity, what would it be?”  After a short pause, his response was: “Catch your kids doing good.” 

I asked what he meant by that phrase.  His response was simply to praise children when they do things that are good.  Apparently parents are quick to give negative feedback to children when they do something wrong, but the more impactful and beneficial approach is to give positive feedback when our children do something good. 

I thought that was a pretty profound answer from an individual who has spent his life’s work understanding and helping children.

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  1. Richard Howe said, on April 14, 2011 at 8:42 pm

    Excellent, applies universally. Father or Leader, how often we omit to praise for the “Good”

  2. lillianjchan said, on April 14, 2011 at 10:07 pm

    Positive reinforcement works. I first learned about the technique from Andrea Arden’s puppy training class! :)

  3. blackberry spy said, on July 12, 2011 at 10:33 am

    wat to do with parents, who don’t find anything positive in their broods? They should spy on their kids secretly so that they know their kids are not the worst of all. Lolz. N for doing so they must use the services of mobile spy software in their mobile phones which will debunk the real side of their kids.

  4. Business Partners said, on July 19, 2011 at 4:59 pm

    If we’re constantly on our kids for the things that they are not doing right, they will never know that there’s a lot of good in them.

  5. Marilynn Joy said, on January 5, 2012 at 9:33 pm

    Greetings, Larry Cheng

    “with the founder of a very promising educational software company. I was intrigued with the background of the founder as it’s not every day that I run into entrepreneurs with an accomplished and extensive background in child psychology.”

    You do not give the name of the founder you are talking about. Who is he? Why is he accomplished?
    Thanks,
    Marilynn Joy


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